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((OOC info dump time:
We have no freehold Oath. Its nowhere on the wiki. The Court Oaths were specifically designed with the intent on not having a traditional monarchy style system. As well, the Oaths are carefully worded so that, while Beruit may have to walk with side by side with their brothers and sisters, it doesn't suggest anything resembling the need for pirates to have to listen to orders.
Gristle's Oath is to watch each other's backs, be strong, and to follow their pride. The term "Old Guard" implies a semi-military outlook as well as being old fashioned, which may include a monarchy in this one Court.
Beruit, however? "I forge my own path" and " I now dedicate myself to her freedom." This clearly does not suggest anything at all about listening to orders; pretty much the opposite. The theme is "pirates." Hang the Code.
Forteans are called the Lunatic Fringe. Their job, if you want to call it that, is to go around "the edge to find what needs to be done no matter how blind I wish to be to it." It talks about not turning aside, no matter what. Orders have the potential to clash and make someone turn aside.
Its been said before, but Mantle is not Status. You get social bonuses, sure, but not a position of authority. The Crowns in 2e are designed to get people to listen to them through the use of the Charmed Condition, which just lasts a few hours; more info here. And even that? You can't give direct orders even when under the Charmed Condition, just ask favors of a friend. Everything is set up so that you have to convince people through regular social rolls or doing small favors under Charmed. The above letter goes beyond what Charmed can do.
And, yes, some changelings do have breaking points and frailties related to following orders. At least there were before some PCs started dropping.))